Nudism and kids

topic posted Thu, September 1, 2005 - 7:48 AM by  chlodevig
I'm an old-time nudist, but I must confess I feel a bit inhibited to practice clothing-optional lifestyle since we've got children. While they were small, it wasn't really a problem,but now they're both in school and I know there's a lot of talking going on among them - and I can imagine they would talk and giggle even more, if their parents were e.g. gardening nude.

We try to act as natural as possible when being nude, e.g. on the way to and from the shower, etc. But in situations, where grown-ups normally are clothed, I find it much more difficult to act and teach a natural attitude toward being nude.

Any hints from other parents would be appreciated.
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  • Re: Nudism and kids

    Wed, September 14, 2005 - 6:07 PM
    We are not nudist but, we are far from shy. We have 2 children who are 5 and 10 and we raised them to no the difference between a man and a woman and never made nude a dirty word. We let our children some times when at home and some times at my parents swim naked when the time is appropriate, that being the key word! My mother-in-law and sister-in-law thinks it is disgusting to let my children walk around naked out side or in the kiddy pool playing with bubbles. Maybe if people like that would not make it be gross we might have less up tight under sex perverts running around? Its to each its own I guess but, with everything we like I say moderation!
    • Re: Nudism and kids

      Wed, September 14, 2005 - 9:27 PM
      I have raised my Son, now 10, in a nudist home. What is that you ask? A home where being nude or being clothed is NO BIG DEAL. I have taken my Son to the Nude beach and to the river. We are nude in the Hot Tub. All of these are No Big Deal.

      I feel that the more we as Adults freak out about nudity, the more the children will see it as "dirty". My Son is allowed to choose when and where he is nude. He has NEVER been forced on way or the other. This I feel has resulted in a well balanced and hopefully respectful young man in regards to seeing others nude.

      My words of advice, be open with your children and teach them that others might live differently than we do.

      Best wishes in your Parenting.
  • Re: Nudism and kids

    Thu, September 29, 2005 - 12:07 PM
    While there is nothing wrong with Nudity, it can be a very tricky situation to address once the kids are bit older.

    Know their comfort level and make your decisions accordingly, as they should be your #1 prority, to do what works best for them. As kids get older Peers become central to their development, and lets face it, naturism isn't societies "Norm"

    I hope for the best for you, as we will be having the same situation very soon ourselves.
  • Re: Nudism and kids

    Thu, September 29, 2005 - 10:45 PM
    I have personally visited Laguna del Sol a C/O resort south of Sacramento. One of the things that amazed me where how children of all ages interact with other children at this resort.

    I've spoken to some of the parents and they let the children decide and adjust on there own to nudity. It is a healthy innocent environment.

    I wish my upbring was as open with regard to nudity. Nudity in my house of four brothers was non existent after puberty.
    • Re: Nudism and kids

      Fri, September 30, 2005 - 10:43 AM
      I totally agree with what you people are saying.
      Be open with the kids, no pressure, let them decide what
      works for them, especially when they become teenagers.

      Don't deliberately embarrass them but also make sure they
      understand your rights to be you.

      My parents were not nudists but often we would seen them nude
      to and from bathing, and they were lots of fun camping because
      they loved skinnydipping.

      I remember going camping and taking a girlfriend along when we were
      14, and the first day we were the only ones at the lake and we all went
      skinnydipping and she was horrified. But the next day, she hopped
      in also, and it's like someone lifted a big burden off her. She became
      a happier person. So one of my goals is to get the world skinnydipping.
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        get the world skinnydipping

        Thu, April 20, 2006 - 10:57 PM
        Now there's a cause I can committ too.

        One of my goals as a wilderness ranger was to see how many different pristine alpine lakes I could skinnydip in in one season. Fourteen was my record. Since then I have skinnydipped in the Pacific, the Atlantic, the Gulf of Mexico, Pyramid Lake, Crater Lake, and numerous creeks and streams.

        There's something about being naked in the water, and especially in the wilderness, that just makes a person happy.
  • Re: Nudism and kids

    Fri, September 30, 2005 - 10:36 AM
    Thanks for your answers, everyone. We had a pretty nice late summer with a couple of warm days allowing us to soak up the sun a bit more just before the fall. Both outside and inside we allowed ourselves to wear as much or as little as everyone felt comfortable with and it was much easier that I was afraid of. Of course the kids were wondering at first, but by talking with them and acting naturally, they soon accepted it.

    I've been to one of those resorts in France in my younger days, which was a beautiful experience. I hope in a not too far future we all can take this sort of holiday together.

    • Re: Nudism and kids

      Fri, March 17, 2006 - 9:14 AM
      I believe when the children are old enough you tell them, 'Look, you don't have to wear a swimsuit in the pool or around the pool if you don't want, but not all families allow this.' If they understand that the privilege of going nude is unique to your home and other areas where it is "accepted" or "established by tradition", then you should not have a problem. Whether their childhood friends are included in these activities is ANOTHER MATTER entirely, for precisely the reasons you mentioned in your original post.

      Not all children are "mature enough" to understand differences in social behavior. It really has nothing to do with sex, puberty or "good" and "bad" touching. In my opinion it is more about "social awareness" and the fact that customs exist and vary in different parts of the world. Obviously educators help "uncover" the truth with children in social studies class, but that usually (and unfortunately) does not come until AFTER their opinions have formed and instinctive reactions programmed. A sad state of affairs. America is socially inept when it comes to MANY (not all) matters of acceptance and tolerance. Otherwise, as a great nation, we would not have the problems we do with racism, sexism, religious discrimination, gender stereotyping, and (yes) "hate".

      If your children are old enough to understand "different strokes for different folks" and "to each his own", or some of the concepts about the pursuit of life, liberty and happiness, then you will be fine. If they are not able to understand these, then perhaps you should wait a bit longer before expanding their view of the world.

      I sincerely think "that" is what life is all about. I had a "narrow" view of life growing up, and between birth and age 8 to 10 would never (reapeat NEVER) have imagined the existence of "nudist camps" (or resorts). Even though my parents and grandparents were not "up tight" about nudity, a wider understanding of "it" in practice was not part of my world.
      • Re: Nudism and kids

        Sat, April 1, 2006 - 1:37 AM
        One way to "normalize" nudity for them is to go to a nudist resort or beach, etc. together. Then it is just no big deal. They can choose their own clothes or not.
        • Re: Nudism and kids

          Sat, April 1, 2006 - 4:23 PM
          I know kids who grew up at Harbin who have no drama about clothes (except the normal shoes before outside)
          I've met other kids who streaked as often as they coud get away with it, for the reaction attention.

          Which is healthier?
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    Re: Nudism and kids

    Thu, April 20, 2006 - 7:44 PM
    I don't think Gorkon did of very good job at raising his kids if they really do "giggle" at their parents nude gardening.

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